Mum-of-two, 49, sent ‘you win’ text to husband before taking her own life

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A TRAGIC mum sent a text saying “you win” to her husband before taking her own life, an inquest heard.

Amanda Jayne Sedgwick, 49, was discovered dead in her bedroom after sending several messages to her husband following a row.


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He was arrested on suspicion of murder but later released under investigation with no charges ever brought against him.

An inquest heard how him and Amanda had been sending each other texts on May 19 last year “centered around the marriage not working”.

DC Kate Norton told the hearing in Doncaster: “This had been a theme running for a long time throughout the marriage.”

At 7.59pm, Amanda messaged her partner saying: “You’ve won”.

He responded ten minutes later: “I would quite happily die right now, so no (sic) you have won.”

Amanda replied at 8.12pm saying: “Too late, I took it first. You won.”

She added: “Love that they were your last words to me.”

He replied shortly after “whatever” before continuing: “Cherish them.”


Women’s Aid has this advice for victims and their families:

  • Always keep your phone nearby.
  • Get in touch with charities for help, including the Women’s Aid live chat helpline and services such as SupportLine.
  • If you are in danger, call 999.
  • Familiarise yourself with the Silent Solution, reporting abuse without speaking down the phone, instead dialing “55”.
  • Always keep some money on you, including change for a pay phone or bus fare.
  • If you suspect your partner is about to attack you, try to go to a lower-risk area of the house – for example, where there is a way out and access to a telephone.
  • Avoid the kitchen and garage, where there are likely to be knives or other weapons. Avoid rooms where you might become trapped, such as the bathroom, or where you might be shut into a cupboard or other small space.

If you are a ­victim of domestic abuse, SupportLine is open Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday from 6pm to 8pm on 01708 765200. The charity’s email support ­service is open weekdays and weekends during the crisis – [email protected]

Women’s Aid provides a live chat service – available every day from 10am-6pm.

You can also call the freephone 24-hour ­National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247.

Amanda’s final message at 8.27pm read: “I didn’t think it would happen. I never thought a man would get me this low.

“Well done you, you are so much better than me.”

Tragically Amanda was discovered dead on her bed just over two hours later and had likely been dead a “couple of hours” by the time paramedics arrived.

A cause of death was given as drug toxicity from overdosing on prescribed medication.

The inquest was told there was no evidence Amanda suffered from mental health issues.

She had complained her husband, who denied being responsible for her death, drank too much.

Recording a verdict of suicide, Coroner Louise Slater said: “She had been with her husband for a period of 23 years and she had two sons.


EVERY 90 minutes in the UK a life is lost to suicide.

It doesn’t discriminate, touching the lives of people in every corner of society – from the homeless and unemployed to builders and doctors, reality stars and footballers.

It’s the biggest killer of people under the age of 35, more deadly than cancer and car crashes.

Yet it’s rarely spoken of, a taboo that threatens to continue its deadly rampage unless we all stop and take notice, now.

That is why The Sun launched the You’re Not Alone campaign.

The aim is that by sharing practical advice, raising awareness and breaking down the barriers people face when talking about their mental health, we can all do our bit to help save lives.

Let’s all vow to ask for help when we need it, and listen out for others… You’re Not Alone.

If you, or anyone you know, needs help dealing with mental health problems, the following organisations provide support:

  • CALM,, 0800 585 858
  • Heads Together,
  • Mind,, 0300 123 3393
  • Papyrus,, 0800 068 41 41
  • Samaritans,, 116 123

“The relationship had been challenging at times. At the time of Amanda’s death she had been furloughed due to Covid.

“It is also clear that there were a number of texts between Amanda and her husband during the evening of May 19.

“It was not a particularly pleasant exchange that evening. I am satisfied that Amanda carried out a deliberate act and she did so with the intention of taking her own life.

Amanda’s mum Pamela paid tribute to her daughter after the hearing.

She said: “I miss my daughter so much, it’s hard to put into words how much I miss her.”

If you are affected by any of the issues raised in this article, please call the Samaritans for free on 116123.

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